I’m not sure if it is just me, but with one-third of the year gone I start to get restless.
I start to feel the urge to dig deep. My journalling sessions become my morning ‘caffeine’. I get this feeling like I need to ‘come home’. Reflect. Re-gather. Realign.
Do you get this feeling too gorgeous?
Recently I’ve been battling some homesickness- which comes and goes. Friends having babies, getting married, getting engaged, moving back home from years abroad… It pulls at my heart strings.
Being away from Australia- my friends and family- is a little like the ocean for me (I’ve come to realise). The water will be calm, still and tranquil one minute. I will feel like I’m laying on my back watching the sun floating. Life in a word is bliss.
Then I will feel like I’m being dealt one massive wave after the next- getting pulled under water, paddling frantically to the shore. Heavy head. Exhausted.
When I first moved away from home- almost 1 year ago-the highs were high but the lows were low.
For a while I was stuck (emotional roller coasters are down right exhausting).
Very very stuck. No idea how to move forward, even though I wanted to (desperately).
One thing I know (and learned) for sure is this: When you are stuck, diving deeper into why you’re stuck will only get you more stuck. It’s like quicksand (not that I’ve been there- thankfully!). The more you struggle, the deeper you get bogged down.
It took me a while to work this out because it is so difficult to not get caught up in your ‘story’ or listen to that mean girl in your head (and heart), when you’re riding an emotional roller coaster.
Digging deeper and deeper into the issue seems the only way to make it better right?
Nope. A BIG no-way! It’s quite the opposite. Magically, quite the opposite.
When I started to acknowledge: How I wanted to feel in life. What was grinding me down (so yes, a little ‘light shining’ on the problem areas, however, it’s not the focus). What were my strengths, passions, talents. What was my purpose. What’s my big vision (my favourite)
I started to get into action mode.
Often in times of need the one question that can really ingnite the fire, hardly ever gets asked…. “What are the next steps forward for you?”. When I asked myself this- it sparked magic.
11 questions to help you get unstuck (now)
1. What is my big vision/ dream/ desire?
2. What do I want?
3. How do I want to feel in my life?
4. What are my strengths
5. What do I feel is holding me back right now?
6. Where am I playing small?
7. If I could start over, what would I do?
8. What advice would someone who loves me provide?
9. What do I intuitively feel or know I need to do to create change?
10. What resources do I have which can help me move forward?
11. What is it that I need to learn/ take away from this
I get goose bumps reading these questions as I review this post. They are just so so powerful. I hope you feel the power behind these questions too.
If you love this type of questioning and inspired action guided clarity- I have SO much more to share with you as a big surprise SOON!
I would love to know if these, or any other questions you have used to help you get un-stucks have been helpful and life changing. Comment below and let me know.
Images thanks to @kamukaactive @arrow_divine