Earlier this week I blogged about a topic that is near and dear to my heart: Afraid To Eat? Fears And Judgements About Food: Part 1. I was nothing short of delighted to see this post be shared around facebook with your friends and to receive so many virtual ‘high fives’ over on Instagram.
As promised I’m sharing some practical, actionable and incredibly useful tips which I know work (because I have tried them all myself). So let’s dive in shall we?
8 Tips To Kick Food Related Fears
1. Confront your fears. It’s not the food you fear, it’s the potential effect of that food. Write down what really scares you, and carry it to the worst possible outcome. It may look like this: “I’m afraid if I indulge my sweet tooth, I won’t be able to stop. I’ll gain a lot of weight until I’m so fat, I wont’ be able to fit into ‘x, y and z’ and then my boyfriend will dump me and I’ll be lonely and unworthy of any male attention. Or maybe it’s along the lines of “I won’t look good come summer when I wear my bikini” or “I want to be thin for the upcoming wedding, so I look good in the dress I have bought and the photos of course”. Whatever your fear, when it’s on paper, it’s easier to then decide if it’s reasonable, or ridiculous. Remember: A little bit of sugar here and there, dairy or gluten is not going to make you stack the weight on overnight….and I know you know this.
3. Spring clean your social media accounts: This is so quick and easy yet uber powerful. I tell my private coaching clients that energy goes where intention flows. Always. In other words, if you constantly open facebook, pintrest or instagram and see nothing but ‘thinspo’ type pictures- or stick thin women in microscopic bikinis- or copious amountfs of ‘ab’ selfies and protein meal replacement shakes- and you know these types of images conjure up fear, guilt and shame…then please, do yourself a favour and rid them from your life. You’re far too gorgeous, worthy and loving for this type of body, mind and spirit ‘pollution’. Start un-following accounts which hit your pressure points stat!
4. Make a decision to lighten up and stop being so neurotic. Honestly, it took me to moving to South East Asia to realise that the world does not revolve around vegan, gluten free, sugar free, raw food. There is more to life than food. And moving (post coming soon), was bloody hard but it really got me out of my head and into my heart. I had to be more open because Singapore certainly wasn’t showering me with the crazy, neurotic options I was used to. Repeat after me: There is more to life than what I eat.. (now go out there and have fun).
5. Ditch the meal plans. I wrote about how much I dislike meal plans and why I will never use a meal plan again (nor produce any in my business- for clients and my tribe). You can read the post I wrote about meal plans here.
6. Work on building up your self love muscle. I wrote a post about how I love to cultivate more love and fun in my life through the use of tuning in to how it is I want to feel each day. I then go and do something which aligns me further with how it is I want to feel. Be it energetic, playful, connected, inspired…I’ve learned to connect the ‘doing’ with a ‘feeling’- and it has helped me bring more love and a heck of a lot more enjoyment into my life. I call this my ‘love list’. You can read more about love lists here.
7. Forgive yourself: I love this, because I believe that true healing starts when we can tell ourselves that we are sorry- we have been hurting- and it is time to forgive yourself. It’s time to move forward. When I wrapped my arms around myself one day during a body love massage and said “I love you and I forgive you Sarah”, I started to realise that radical change was possible and oh-so close. Some of my clients look at themselves in the mirror and repeat a mantra that inspires them to forgive and forget such as “You’ve got this! You can do this. I believe in you and I forgive you.” So give yourself one heck of a hug and start putting one foot in front of the other towards action town.
8. Ditch deprivation: I write at length about this in my upcoming ebook ‘Be Free’. Read here to help you learn how to lean into permitting over restricting, especially when it comes to treating yourself with some of your favourite ‘old time’ foods. I used to avoid apples like the plague because I was worried they were ‘sugar bombs’. Gosh!
Want even MORE inspiration? Read here for more inspired actionable tips. As you can see I am SO passionate about this topic. I would love you to help me to reach as many women as I can with this message. So please use the social media buttons below and share this post around. My gratitude cup would overflow if you did.
And lastly: I BELIEVE in all of you gorgeous bright eyed souls who have read this article. I BELIEVE in you.