No sugar this, no sugar that. It has created quite a split in the health sphere: To eat fructose or to not eat fructose. That is the question- and – I get asked all the time my thoughts on the sweet stuff, being sugar (well fructose specifically).
Straight up: I’m not the kind of person to ‘tell’ you what to do, but I will help you in this post by lovingly guiding you to think through this question based on how it is you want to feel in life.
Here’s the thing: I’ve done the whole no fructose thing and I’m going to tell you it made me feel crap. And it wasn’t because I was ‘detoxing’ or recalibrating or whatever. I honestly enjoy a little fructose here and there. It makes me feel good, feel satisfied and happy.
And we all want to feel good, be happy and be satisfied in life right?
So why block yourself from this? And that my friends, made me have a light bulb moment where I realised this no fructose thing wasn’t for me.
I should say I have always been the type of child who lived for the weekly dessert night, the lollies I would occasionally get as a reward and finding ways to climb to the top of the pantry shelf to retrieve my mum’s stash of lollies and chocolate!! As an adult if I could eat chocolate 24/7 I would and when ordering at a restaurant I am certainly that person who will look at the dessert menu first (to make sure I leave room for a few bites…or more- let’s be honest!).
My first experiences in the kitchen were baking…which rolled into a love for decorating cupcakes (and creating some fine cupcakes at that). If you can’t tell from my recipes it is clear I love sweet treats, desserts and sweeter style breakfasts.
So with all this in mind, it is no wonder why the no fructose thing wasn’t working for me, and certainly wasn’t serving me up a lot of love, glow and bliss.
When I did quit sugar (the white stuff) of course I felt better. I had more energy, I didn’t feel bloated and my skin started to radiate. I wasn’t moody and I was generally eating better. But when I was too scared to eat a piece of fruit because of the ‘fructose’ or enjoy a dried sultana because that’s a sugar bomb or even enjoy some honey in a tea/porridge etc, I knew this was getting a little crazy.
ask me anything: q & A #4
Question: How to be sweet to your sweet tooth
1. Understand this, first and foremost: You deserve to live a life that you enjoy, that brings you love, that fulfils your desires. And if an apple will make you happy, or a medjool date or another ‘sugar bomb’ like a dash of maple syrup, then please- enjoy it.
2. My own personal mantra around sugar says it all: “Everything in moderation”. The day I cried over eating an apple and wanted to be sick was the day I told myself this fructose thing was damn damn ridiculous. A little fructose for me was not sumountable to this mess. I was done (big time) with it.
3. The book that changed it all for me was tuning into how I wanted to feel every day. Insert The Desire Map. When I worked my way (eagerly) through this book I realised that deprivation, restriction and pain were certainly not how I wanted to feel in life. By working out how you want to feel you will serve up a whole lot more lovingness and self compassion when it comes to making food choices.
4. Realise your worth, beauty and strength comes from more than whether you eat fructose or not. While it might be cool to jump on the fructose bandwagon, if you are feeling terrible, anti social, rigid and deprived, how much better off are you? Truly!
5. Understand your why. Why is it that you want to steer clear of fructose? If you have an auto immune/ medical condition/ been suggested to do so from your specialist then by all means you go girl! But if not and you’re curious, lean into this. Is it because underneath it all you think quitting fructose is a way to gain further control over your life? Is it because you think it’s the only way you will lose those extra few kilos? What are you really trying to achieve? Dig deep. Feel.
Have you quit sugar? If you have tell me how you found it and if you have a tip for how to keep balanced and calm around sugar, please comment below.
Middle image via Instagram, cover image via @pana_chocolate