Recently I’ve been spending a lot of time talking to you guys about how controlling your food is in fact only making you more insane around food.
As you probably know by now, especially if you’ve read here and here, the real reason you’re controlling your food is highly likely because you have an issue with your weight…meaning you want to lose weight and ‘believe’ that controlling your food is a ‘successful’ long term weight management strategy.
While I could write an essay about this, there’s a bigger issue at play here which I want to discuss and give a little ‘air time’.
Very rarely do I work with women who just have a control issue with food and nothing else. So rare in fact that I can’t recall a client off the top of my head who just had a huge ‘OCD’ issue with food and nothing else (i.e. relationships, money, routines, exercise etc).
Because here’s the thing: We don’t try to control our weight for no reason…we control our weight because of ‘something’….to control something else (i.e. To be more attractive so we get the ‘hot’ bf, to feel ‘sexier’ so we can enjoy nights out on the weekends, to feel more ‘successful’ etc).
….When I’m thin, people will think I look more attractive and will want to hang out with me
….When I’m thin I will be a more successful life and health coach because people will be admire me and aspire to work with me
….When I’m thin I won’t be lonely because I will get the attention of all these men that would have otherwise ignored me, so I’m bound to score a boyfriend.
But in reality trying to control our weight is really just an attempt to control the uncontrollable.
It might sound obvious but I see and hear so many women actually thinking that by controlling their weight they can influence what other people think of them.
When you can understand that you have no control over what other people think of you and feel about you, you can start to make some tracks in the sand towards relinquishing the need for ‘control’ on your plate….and in your life.
You have no control over how other’s perceive your body
And even if you did there will always be someone who still won’t like it…in fact there could and will likely be many.
Regardless of your weight, life will still throw you stress, drama and uncomfortable situations.
No matter what you weigh you will still experience fear, shame and vulnerability.
No matter what you weight there will always be people who love, value and appreciate you.
The best advice I can give you is, is that you can’t control your feelings or your life through your weight as a successful or ‘health’ strategy in the long run.
And as long as you hold the perception that your weight is a magic number that will solve life’s troubles and issues, then you’re never going to end the battle with control…which fuels the need to control your food (and the diet-binge cycle and a plethora of other food related issues……)
What is it going to take for you to be able to step back from what you’re doing and try something new?
Are your attempts to control your life honestly working out for you? Are you engaging in more ‘healthful behavior’ because of it?
What do you feel you need to do to relinquish control once and for all?
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