I believe that emotional eating is an alarm bell trying to desperately get your attention around a particular feeling that you’re not quite ‘in tune’ with.
You see many of my clients come to work with me because they can’t stop this ‘eating curse’. They’ve tried everything to stop sitting on the couch and reaching for crisp after crisp, stop after a few cookies or stop diving head first into the bread basket. They tell me that food is a way of soothing and providing them with comfort.
And I hear you ladies!…Because I too have found myself resorting to food as a way of dealing with the lows (and highs) of life. I certainly wasn’t jumping around thanking emotional eating for gracing me with it’s ‘ugly presence’ when I was sitting at the fridge devouring anything sweet I could get my hands on at 12pm at night in private!
But now I’m ‘clean’ I have a fresh take on my experience which I wish I got wind of during my days of emotional eating after emotional eating….
Being all into the idea that ‘your perspective changes everything’ I’ve come to realise that emotional eating isn’t such a bad thing.
In fact, I’m going to go as far to say that it was the ‘bitch slap’ that got my attention that something wasn’t quite so right in my life.
I know what you’re thinking right now…..”She’s crazy. How can she say that given I’m literally at the fridge devouring cake and ice cream every night. How can this possibly be described as a ‘good’ thing?”.
Let me explain….
By definition emotional eating is essentially an attempt at dealing with a problem, feeling, or situation we don’t otherwise know how to deal with, with food.
Whether you really understand what it is that’s giving you the feeling that the only thing that’s going to ‘soften the blow’, ‘calm you the hell down’ and ‘take the edge off’ is that ice-cream at the back of the freezer or the left over cake in the back of the fridge, or the peanut butter hiding in the cupboard…..emotional eating is an alarm bell.
And if we choose to see it as an alarm bell that’s saying “Hold up! There’s something going on that you need to know about”…we might just be able to ‘stop’ fighting emotional eating in the first place.
In other words I believe that when you can stop judging your behaviour- being emotional eating- you can see it for what it is: a tap on the shoulder from ‘life’ demanding that something needs your attention.
Chances are that ‘something’ needing your attention has nothing to do with your weight, or your body and everything to do with your actual life.
So I propose that instead of judging, self shaming, labelling and suffering from a guilt storm after you emotionally eat, choose to shift your perspective to one of gratitude.
Here’s the clincher: It’s the clients that can unpack what their emotional eating is actually trying to tell them, that go on to make radical change around food and their body.
I know that when I wan to emotionally eat now there’s something greater at play here. What do you think?
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