Despite the fact I’m a food and a body image coach helping women to stop feeling crazy around food and their body, I’m still a human.
Which means that I too have days where accepting my body is bloody haaarrrrd. Days where I worry that I’ve eaten ‘too much’ or that the cupcake I just ate was ‘bad’.
The other day I was out with friends enjoying a post pilates breakfast. I found myself inhaling an iced cinnamon scroll (inhaling + food isn’t the eating pattern I practice these days so this was the first ‘red flag’). Then I immediately started thinking ‘Oh shit! My stomach feels huge’.
It has been a loooong time since I’ve felt this behavioural reaction to food and my body. Since these days which you can read of here I’ve been practicing a plethora of different ways to eat sans the ‘craziness’ around food.
If you’ve been following my work for some time now, you’ll know that I believe that a majority of the reasons why food is your frenemy is because of some underlying body hate.
To some degree or another, it’s this dissatisfaction with our bodies, and the resulting belief that we are our bodies (i.e our bodies represent our values, self worth, talents, success, intelligence etc), that causes women to want to control themselves through food.
You can’t help but turn to food if you believe that your weight equals your self worth.
I’ve been there too. For years my weight was my ‘badge of honour’, which basically means I thought that if I was thin enough I’d be popular, hot, I’d get the cute guys talking to me and I’d just feel better. Clothes would fit, I’d be fit…life would be easy right?
In times like this I’ve got a few things I use and think you might find these helpful too.
I get thinking. There has to be some reason why all of a sudden I’ve gone from feeling sane around food to feeling insane around food. When I got completely honest with myself and asked myself “What is this food thing trying to tell me?” the answer was right ‘there’. When I share this tip with clients they often tell me that they were turning to food because of stress- crossroads in life- anxiety- happiness- fear-vulnerability.
I remember the fundamental beliefs that now shape my existence. Essentially that I am worth more than my weight. ‘Bad’ body and food days are now just a reminder to me that there’s something in my life that needs my attention- something significant that has been trying to reach out to me for my attention. See this as an attempt to re-align yourself back to your truth rather than seeing this as a sign that you’re ‘hopeless’ a ‘failure’ etc.
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