Something that baffles me that I want to straighten out here is that guilt isn’t correlated with weight loss. Meaning by labelling certain food as a ‘cheat meal’ or a ‘treat’ doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll eat less of it.
In fact I could argue that the opposite is true: Guilt makes you eat more by default of making you feel crazy around food to begin with.
It’s because of guilt that you start out restricting…which only leads to some form of rebellious eating for a vast majority of the population (e.g. binge eating, emotional eating, weight cycling etc).
Many people believe that if they allow themselves to feel guilty enough (even if they just imagine themselves eating the ‘naughty’ food) that they will gain ‘control’ over their food.
No. Not a thing.
Contrary to what you might believe feeling guilty is not the way to gain control over your food.
Feeling guilty because you ate the peanut butter doesn’t mean you won’t eat it next time.
Feeling guilty doesn’t mean your food cravings will be diverted.
Feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’ll do ‘better’ next time.
In all cases I can argue that it’s because of ‘guilt’ that you can’t stop eating the peanut butter by the (heaped) spoonful. It’s because of guilt that you can’t stop thinking about (and tell me you’re addicted to) sugar. It’s because of guilt that you keep saying “Tomorrow the diet will begin again”.
Guilt won’t serve you to lose weight. It won’t give you the toned arse you’re longing for. It won’t get a date with Mr Dreamy. Because let’s be real here, guilt only serves to make you feel even more like a prisoner in your own body.
Guilt trips you up. It’s the thing that backs you into the corner and says “Go harder at the gym! Eat less. Don’t eat that! You’ve had too much. You’re a fat pig/ hopeless/ loser/ you can’t do anything right”.
Guilt doesn’t motivate you. It eventually and inevitably de-motivates you.
Trying to control your food doesn’t induce sanity, but rather insanity. We aren’t in control of our food no more than we can’t control our breath.
Sanity around food will be afforded to those people who don’t feel guilty around food but rather practice food neutrality.
But before you can truly open your mind up to eating in a way that is going to serve you on on an emotional, physical and spiritual level, sanity will be afforded to people who are able to separate their food (and their weight) from having bearing on their self worth.
Because when you’re able to truly understand that you have no control over your food and your weight to begin with, you’ll realize that guilt serves no positive purpose.
It’s utterly redundant (like diets)….Something to think about this week.
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