I was talking to a new friend the other day, telling her all about my story and how my healing started happening (ironically) when I moved to a country where body diversity was few and far between.
Recovering was a hard enough prospect for me let alone recovering in a country where a ‘thin’ body type was all that was in front of me. Essentially a societal expectation that ‘thin’ is beautiful, successful, sexy, atrractive etc…all of which I felt I wasn’t (even though I was ‘thin’).
So when my friend asked me what has been one significant factor that I’ve embraced which has supported my healing, it has most certainly been being able to face the societal stigma around body diversity, which essentially means learning that body diversity is acceptable, ‘ok’ and more to the point natural.
….That despite living in a country where I’ve been surrounded by this ideal of what is beautiful (e.g plastic surgery, botox, liposuction etc), that my body size, shape and appearance is perfect just how it is.
….Being told that you can tell how long someone has been living in a country by the amount of visible work they have had done to their face, is not a thought process or set of behaviours that I ‘ought’ engage in to feel worthy.
….That despite being told that none of the clothes will fit me because I’m too ‘fat’ (while I’m sure that english being a second language had something to do with the word ‘fat’ being used without this being the intention, it still hurt a lot), that I’m still worthy.…